Have you forgave to other person?

After a terrible relationship or a breakup, people broke completely with the pain and the hurt. For some people, it is not easy to move on from the relationship they were in. Then they start to test different things to diverse their mind. Some got succeeded and some did not.

All the people who broke and hurt went through mixed emotions like anger, forgiveness, love, hurt, broken, and many more.

If you forgive a person and you hang on to the anger the pain and the hurt and you say, you forgave the other person then you don’t understand what forgiveness really is. Forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for us.

When you try to engage in a new relationship to just diverse your mind, then it is not a good choice because until you heal from what you have been going through, how can you participate honestly with another person. which also means that you will be going to do the same thing that others did to you.

In my opinion, anger is necessary but in the right direction which heals you permanently. Put your anger into your growth or in other words put your anger for construction, not for destruction.

Who suffered most in a breakup, boy or girl?

A few days back, me and my friend having a conversation about one of our common friend’s breakup stories. In that story, there is a question raised that who suffered most in the breakup, boy or girl. All have their own side to view this question but in my perspective, either of boy or girl can suffer the most. It is not related to gender specific.

I strongly believe that sometimes one has to pay the extra cost and bear all the pain it can be either boy or girl. One who is attached more to their partner will suffer the most.

I’m a married man with a divorce. In my case, I am still paying costs, still bearing all the pain as she already moved on and get married again in no time after our divorce. My family always tries to convince me that I should get married soon. But they don’t know where I am standing right now. I am still standing where she left me.

Sometimes I thought that I should get married then I get another thought how about if the same thing happens again. And the hidden truth is she is still left in me. I am still living with her not physically but emotionally.

I have a strong belief in God so I already forgive her. I am strongly attached to her because she is my first love and my first love is always so special. I would prefer to bear all the pain alone because I want to see her happy. I can pay any cost for her happiness.

But the conclusion about the question we raised in our conversation is that boys take time to overcome this breakup trauma and girl easily move on.

Don’t expect anything from anyone

Jeevan Mein Cigratte, Sharaab Aur Jua

जीवन में सिगरेट ,शराब, और जुआ से भी पहले छोड़ने लायक कुछ है,
तो वह है दूसरों से उम्मीद..

We expect things from the people whoever close to us or we love them and trust them. I don’t remember that I expect things from anyone else than my wife. Because I love & trust her the most. And that hurt a lot that time when I had expectations from her. We already separated 5 years ago. My heart still has goosebumps for her. The only thing that has changed is expectation.

One of the lessons I learned from my experience is Don’t expect anything from anyone. When you help someone, give kindness, give time or anything else don’t expect it in return. Eventually, your Karma will reward you in any way.

Keep in mind that your hurt, pain, disappointments, and whatsoever would be easier if you didn’t expect something back from someone.